Monday, July 13, 2009

Ball in the middle

Have you ever felt like a ball being thrown in the middle? Well it's how I feel at the moment! At one side is the girl that has worked for my company for over 10 yrs, on the other, is the new girl that came in while I was on maternity. They clearly have issues and don't like each other. So much so, that prior to me going back to work I was told that the new girl was stuck up. AND she, told me as soon as the first possibility arose how the other has been trying to say that we would not get on together etc. Every other word between them is either full of sarcasm or simply said to annoy the other.
Its gets boring after a while hearing them and tiring as well. When one of them is not in the office, I am spoken to in the sense of trying to get me in their grace or something.....like "did you see what she did? she is so...." and today it kinda struck me that I was like a ball being thrown in the middle. I thought how sad it must be for those people thinking they might buy me like that and be their friend. How not interested I am in being either's friend and how I am not happy in being a ball. So I said the easiest is to simply ignore which is actually easier said than done. However, I guess eventually I will simply have to tell them straight and plain that I am not interested in being their ball and to sort their sad lives between them. For now though I won't.....I am too lazy to get into such discussions or maybe too timid to do it face to face....which ever it is they make work time a bit more annoying that it was 5 months ago or so.

3 comments:

The Redhead Riter said...

Stopping by from SITS and thought I would say Hi!

BE BRAVE! Your life will be happier at work if you simply and nicely tell them both, "I like you both. I do not understand why you can't get along. I do not want to discuss the other person unless you have something nice to say about her." If they still try to talk to you about it, be firm. Just say, "You are doing it and I refuse to listen" and then leave the room. :o)

Alicia said...

sigh...those types of situations are the worst. it's so sad to me that two adults just can't act mature and do their work instead of being so petty...but what a great example you are to them by being neutral!

Mrs. Fish aka Two Fish said...

Hang in there...I think in the end they will push you to the point where you can't take it anymore and lose your temper with them, which would be so bad. Or you will finally let each of them know how that if they don't like one another fine, but to leave you out of the situation and that you are there to work with them, not be their dumping area for the other. Best of luck my friend, work is always so difficult when those situations arise.

Monday, July 13, 2009

Ball in the middle

Have you ever felt like a ball being thrown in the middle? Well it's how I feel at the moment! At one side is the girl that has worked for my company for over 10 yrs, on the other, is the new girl that came in while I was on maternity. They clearly have issues and don't like each other. So much so, that prior to me going back to work I was told that the new girl was stuck up. AND she, told me as soon as the first possibility arose how the other has been trying to say that we would not get on together etc. Every other word between them is either full of sarcasm or simply said to annoy the other.
Its gets boring after a while hearing them and tiring as well. When one of them is not in the office, I am spoken to in the sense of trying to get me in their grace or something.....like "did you see what she did? she is so...." and today it kinda struck me that I was like a ball being thrown in the middle. I thought how sad it must be for those people thinking they might buy me like that and be their friend. How not interested I am in being either's friend and how I am not happy in being a ball. So I said the easiest is to simply ignore which is actually easier said than done. However, I guess eventually I will simply have to tell them straight and plain that I am not interested in being their ball and to sort their sad lives between them. For now though I won't.....I am too lazy to get into such discussions or maybe too timid to do it face to face....which ever it is they make work time a bit more annoying that it was 5 months ago or so.

3 comments:

The Redhead Riter said...

Stopping by from SITS and thought I would say Hi!

BE BRAVE! Your life will be happier at work if you simply and nicely tell them both, "I like you both. I do not understand why you can't get along. I do not want to discuss the other person unless you have something nice to say about her." If they still try to talk to you about it, be firm. Just say, "You are doing it and I refuse to listen" and then leave the room. :o)

Alicia said...

sigh...those types of situations are the worst. it's so sad to me that two adults just can't act mature and do their work instead of being so petty...but what a great example you are to them by being neutral!

Mrs. Fish aka Two Fish said...

Hang in there...I think in the end they will push you to the point where you can't take it anymore and lose your temper with them, which would be so bad. Or you will finally let each of them know how that if they don't like one another fine, but to leave you out of the situation and that you are there to work with them, not be their dumping area for the other. Best of luck my friend, work is always so difficult when those situations arise.