There is my cheeky son! He is 3 years and started school a month ago.
Gregory at this age can be a joy to be around. Telling stories or just telling you what will happen next during the day or just an insight on something that happened at school. He has LOTS of energy and enjoys laughing that beautiful smile of his.
He is also very much clinging to his last vestiges of babyhood. As if letting go of them will somehow change everything. Its more a reversal to some toddler ways really like won't eat unless given to him which alas I will have to put my foot down as it is also effecting his eating at school. Suddenly telling me that he can't put on or off clothes and shoes or cut the veggies. The problem here would stem into a tantrum of he can't do it but doesn't want me to help him do it. It can be a tight rope!
We are still finding it difficult to have him understand emotions and needs or wants which still causes tantrums. That is our ongoing battle.
On the other hand, he is starting to show empathy once in a blue moon. He also started to show affection to those around him by hugging them. Saying please and thank you and sometimes sorry without our prompting at all. Started to sing songs whereas generally he doesn't quite like to join in (although he does tend to sing them to himself and not with us or so on).
He is still very volatile but it is getting better, very, very, extremely, slowly. I catch myself worrying way too much on him. I need to release him more into the world after all he is accountable for his own feelings and while I still need to guide him for still quite a long time, I also need to show him that he is accountable for anything he does, says or decides and while I am always there for him, he needs to find his own path.
The Path of Life
You have made known to me the paths of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence. Acts 2:28
Tuesday, March 6, 2012
Friday, February 10, 2012
Communicating Feelings
How do you express sadness over events that happened in an appropiate way?
I do not know myself-My little man needs a lot of communication skills to learn and yet unless I learn them myself first, he will not get there himself.
So today I struggle. Struggle to understand why the sadness I felt this morning over Greg hurtng myself and Maya. The sadness of expressing his own anger in aggression, was expressed by myself as anger and aggression. Can you see a pattern?
Yeah I am the one who is teaching him the bad ways while advocating he shouldn't do it! Truthfully I forgive myself for this transgression and am happy to know that I am aware of it. BUT how do I change it to non violent action and positive teaching?
-Sigh- I have no idea. With Greg being in school, I haven't had a lot of episodes like this. Today being a holiday we woke up all in arms and getting at each other. It saddened me because I do not want his days at home to be full of anger and resentment and aggression.
I will sit with this question today, ask for guidance and let it churn in my head. An answer will surely come forth.
I do not know myself-My little man needs a lot of communication skills to learn and yet unless I learn them myself first, he will not get there himself.
So today I struggle. Struggle to understand why the sadness I felt this morning over Greg hurtng myself and Maya. The sadness of expressing his own anger in aggression, was expressed by myself as anger and aggression. Can you see a pattern?
Yeah I am the one who is teaching him the bad ways while advocating he shouldn't do it! Truthfully I forgive myself for this transgression and am happy to know that I am aware of it. BUT how do I change it to non violent action and positive teaching?
-Sigh- I have no idea. With Greg being in school, I haven't had a lot of episodes like this. Today being a holiday we woke up all in arms and getting at each other. It saddened me because I do not want his days at home to be full of anger and resentment and aggression.
I will sit with this question today, ask for guidance and let it churn in my head. An answer will surely come forth.
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Tuesday, March 6, 2012
Clinging
There is my cheeky son! He is 3 years and started school a month ago.
Gregory at this age can be a joy to be around. Telling stories or just telling you what will happen next during the day or just an insight on something that happened at school. He has LOTS of energy and enjoys laughing that beautiful smile of his.
He is also very much clinging to his last vestiges of babyhood. As if letting go of them will somehow change everything. Its more a reversal to some toddler ways really like won't eat unless given to him which alas I will have to put my foot down as it is also effecting his eating at school. Suddenly telling me that he can't put on or off clothes and shoes or cut the veggies. The problem here would stem into a tantrum of he can't do it but doesn't want me to help him do it. It can be a tight rope!
We are still finding it difficult to have him understand emotions and needs or wants which still causes tantrums. That is our ongoing battle.
On the other hand, he is starting to show empathy once in a blue moon. He also started to show affection to those around him by hugging them. Saying please and thank you and sometimes sorry without our prompting at all. Started to sing songs whereas generally he doesn't quite like to join in (although he does tend to sing them to himself and not with us or so on).
He is still very volatile but it is getting better, very, very, extremely, slowly. I catch myself worrying way too much on him. I need to release him more into the world after all he is accountable for his own feelings and while I still need to guide him for still quite a long time, I also need to show him that he is accountable for anything he does, says or decides and while I am always there for him, he needs to find his own path.
Gregory at this age can be a joy to be around. Telling stories or just telling you what will happen next during the day or just an insight on something that happened at school. He has LOTS of energy and enjoys laughing that beautiful smile of his.
He is also very much clinging to his last vestiges of babyhood. As if letting go of them will somehow change everything. Its more a reversal to some toddler ways really like won't eat unless given to him which alas I will have to put my foot down as it is also effecting his eating at school. Suddenly telling me that he can't put on or off clothes and shoes or cut the veggies. The problem here would stem into a tantrum of he can't do it but doesn't want me to help him do it. It can be a tight rope!
We are still finding it difficult to have him understand emotions and needs or wants which still causes tantrums. That is our ongoing battle.
On the other hand, he is starting to show empathy once in a blue moon. He also started to show affection to those around him by hugging them. Saying please and thank you and sometimes sorry without our prompting at all. Started to sing songs whereas generally he doesn't quite like to join in (although he does tend to sing them to himself and not with us or so on).
He is still very volatile but it is getting better, very, very, extremely, slowly. I catch myself worrying way too much on him. I need to release him more into the world after all he is accountable for his own feelings and while I still need to guide him for still quite a long time, I also need to show him that he is accountable for anything he does, says or decides and while I am always there for him, he needs to find his own path.
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Friday, February 10, 2012
Communicating Feelings
How do you express sadness over events that happened in an appropiate way?
I do not know myself-My little man needs a lot of communication skills to learn and yet unless I learn them myself first, he will not get there himself.
So today I struggle. Struggle to understand why the sadness I felt this morning over Greg hurtng myself and Maya. The sadness of expressing his own anger in aggression, was expressed by myself as anger and aggression. Can you see a pattern?
Yeah I am the one who is teaching him the bad ways while advocating he shouldn't do it! Truthfully I forgive myself for this transgression and am happy to know that I am aware of it. BUT how do I change it to non violent action and positive teaching?
-Sigh- I have no idea. With Greg being in school, I haven't had a lot of episodes like this. Today being a holiday we woke up all in arms and getting at each other. It saddened me because I do not want his days at home to be full of anger and resentment and aggression.
I will sit with this question today, ask for guidance and let it churn in my head. An answer will surely come forth.
I do not know myself-My little man needs a lot of communication skills to learn and yet unless I learn them myself first, he will not get there himself.
So today I struggle. Struggle to understand why the sadness I felt this morning over Greg hurtng myself and Maya. The sadness of expressing his own anger in aggression, was expressed by myself as anger and aggression. Can you see a pattern?
Yeah I am the one who is teaching him the bad ways while advocating he shouldn't do it! Truthfully I forgive myself for this transgression and am happy to know that I am aware of it. BUT how do I change it to non violent action and positive teaching?
-Sigh- I have no idea. With Greg being in school, I haven't had a lot of episodes like this. Today being a holiday we woke up all in arms and getting at each other. It saddened me because I do not want his days at home to be full of anger and resentment and aggression.
I will sit with this question today, ask for guidance and let it churn in my head. An answer will surely come forth.
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