Monday, September 20, 2010

Leading the way to two

Ain't my man looking super sweet here pretending to talk on the phone? 

This Summer as I have said probably ad nauseum, we saw lots of sudden progress in Gregory.  Maybe the most prominent change these past few days or so has been the sudden outbursts of frustration (also known as tantrums?).  Although they happen any time of the day, we had a few nighttime problems as well and whenever this happens it actually humbles me.

Here he is understanding practically anything I tell him and with an increasing vocabulary on a weekly basis but he still hasn't got enough to tell me what are his needs at any given time.  Especially at night time when he is full of sleep he seems too confused to even tell me a basic need as drink and the ensuing crying and kicking and flailing of arms is quite an incredible experience. 

I always feel helpless in trying to understand and calm him and its an uphill battle with myself in wondering if I am doing it right or wrong the handling of each situation.  So in trying to be consistent, while being understanding, I am trying to let my instinct take over more everyday to deal compassionately with these situations.

How do/did you distinguish between a need and a want?

1 comment:

Heidi said...

You know I'm on this same track with you, sister. :)

I loath the outbursts and Eli is getting better too, thankfully. I think it's especially difficult for them as they get so frustrated in this beginning stage of communication and they want so badly to be understood.

I reapeatedly tell Eli to "talk nice" when he's in the demanding mode and promptly gets put in our time out corner if he doesn't change his attitude.

Need or want, I'm more interested in addressing the attitude in which he presents it.

Monday, September 20, 2010

Leading the way to two

Ain't my man looking super sweet here pretending to talk on the phone? 

This Summer as I have said probably ad nauseum, we saw lots of sudden progress in Gregory.  Maybe the most prominent change these past few days or so has been the sudden outbursts of frustration (also known as tantrums?).  Although they happen any time of the day, we had a few nighttime problems as well and whenever this happens it actually humbles me.

Here he is understanding practically anything I tell him and with an increasing vocabulary on a weekly basis but he still hasn't got enough to tell me what are his needs at any given time.  Especially at night time when he is full of sleep he seems too confused to even tell me a basic need as drink and the ensuing crying and kicking and flailing of arms is quite an incredible experience. 

I always feel helpless in trying to understand and calm him and its an uphill battle with myself in wondering if I am doing it right or wrong the handling of each situation.  So in trying to be consistent, while being understanding, I am trying to let my instinct take over more everyday to deal compassionately with these situations.

How do/did you distinguish between a need and a want?

1 comment:

Heidi said...

You know I'm on this same track with you, sister. :)

I loath the outbursts and Eli is getting better too, thankfully. I think it's especially difficult for them as they get so frustrated in this beginning stage of communication and they want so badly to be understood.

I reapeatedly tell Eli to "talk nice" when he's in the demanding mode and promptly gets put in our time out corner if he doesn't change his attitude.

Need or want, I'm more interested in addressing the attitude in which he presents it.