love, nothing lives without it.

We say I love you far to often and casually. We believe that marriage is for keeps and even though divorce is common nowadays its still somewhat a scandal. We are taught that you can only love one person at a time and dreams are just that an unreachable object to think about and make life more bearable when it is not.

Unconditional love is quoted in many aspects of life and especially marriage. However, I think (me included) we don't really know its meaning. Love should fill our existance, not just in marriage but in every day life. Love is elusive as the wind, you can feel it fleetingly or for a long while but you can't catch it or hold it or actually see it unless in the trees, grass, flowers or simply our hair is rustled by it.

We get frustrated with our partner, friends or other family members, because we have expectations but these don't always manifest themselves and so we get angry, disappointed, annoyed.....real love has no boundaries, no expectness.....it just happens spontaneously and if only we look at these gestures and not our idea of love, we would be overwelmed by the unlimited amount of love given freely.

Quoting a part from the book The Zahir by Paolo Coelho, sometimes marriage becomes like a rail track. You have 2 straight lines going in the same direction which can't be changed at all otherwise the train derails. In reality, since we change all the time, the lines can't be straight......sometimes we overlap our paths, other times we are very far from each other but if we stay pure in our love and accept such changes, our marriage can't be destroyed.

Every religion that exists quotes love as the most important tool that one needs in life. That is true and all we have to do is open our hearts, forget what we were taught, let our heart guide us. Such simplicity, that in our complicated and materialistic world is near to impossible to do. Last Sunday in church, during the sermon, the priest said that because of our egoistic selves, because we think first and foremost about ourselves, we do not share, love or help and so we have wars, quarrels.......and I felt so sad inside knowing how true his words are and how the people in the congregation were hearing but not listening, seeing but not observing, thinking but not deeply. That most will leave after the service and forget every single word as soon as they open the church door and start speaking to their neighbour, friend, partner.....

To live in a perpetual state of love, we must forget our past. Remember the emotions but not the details. We must live every day as if it might be our last so as to live it to the max. Love! Someone talks to you in the street and you don't know him...talk back and not walk on. Someone is asking for money, don't think that he should try find a job or that you have more need of it yourself, just share what you got. Someone does you a bad deed, smile, forgive and pray for him to open his heart to you because no matter how bad and deep the wound is, it simply is not worth thinking and worrying about since it only brings misery. If we say I forgive you but will never forget.....ask yourself are you truly forgiving? If you don't forget, you have kept it in your heart, you haven't let go of your past and the past will haunt you and make you sad and heavy.

Love is very difficult to understand and difficult to understand how it effects our lives....but sometimes there are things that for some reason makes us look inside and think and understand. My such moments come from reading, and The Zahir by Paolo Coelho is one such book. Whenever I read it I understand something new, something that fills me with peace and lets me carry on, on my quest and journey of finding myself and truly understand my reason for being.

Let love fill your body
Let it seep into your soul
Love is what keeps us happy
Love is what keeps us alive.